On their overnight fantasy dates, Gerry said things to her that made it seem like he'd made up his mind and she was the one. Not only did he tell Leslie that he loved her, he waxed poetic about her, saying something about wanting hers to be the last face he sees every night and the first he sees in the morning. What was she supposed to think? I didn't hear him say anything like that to the other woman.
Speaking of the other woman, her name is Theresa, and he chose her in the end. But I don't think that was his original plan. If you go back and watch all of the episodes, you will notice he treats Leslie differently from the other women. She even said he slipped a sweet note into her pocket on a group date. He even admitted to thinking about her when he was with Theresa.
Another thing he did was whisper, "You're my girl," into Leslie's ear more that once. It seemed as though he'd made up his mind and she was the one. If I was her, I would already have my wedding planned out at that point. He made it sound like he was in love with her and already knew he was going to propose to her.
When he and Leslie were riding ATVs, he kept worrying about her and was constantly looking back to check on her. But when he rose horses with Theresa, he just called over his shoulder once, "You good back there?"
Personally, I think he made the final decision with his head instead of his heart. He seemed like a man in love when he grabbed Leslie on their final date and held her close for a long time. He cried. She cried. It was like he didn't want to let her go. Then he told her he was in love with the other woman.
WHAT?! I could not believe my ears. More than once he had called Theresa the 'safe choice.' I guess he decided he wanted to be safe and comfortable (another word he used while talking about her.)
He gave us a hint on the Live show when he said everything changed on their fantasy suite date. Apparently, Theresa told him about her marriage. Just like him, she'd lost her spouse after decades of marriage. So they had a lot in common. He said he realized she knew what it took to make a marriage work, and that's why he chose her. Leslie had been divorced twice. Naturally, he would be worried about marrying someone who hadn't had a long-lasting relationship.
I think she also shot herself in the foot when she met his daughters. They asked her if she would say yes to a proposal. She admitted to having anxiety over it and mentioned she'd never been able to commit. Red flag!
Gerry probably made the right decision, but we'll never really know. My mother had been divorced four times when she met my current stepfather. His spouse had died after years together, like Gerry. And like Gerry, he was worried about marrying someone who hadn't had a successful relationship.
Well, they are together more than twenty years later. Turns out my mother just needed to find a man who wouldn't cheat. Every single man before him had cheated on her. I'm glad my stepfather gave her a chance and didn't do a Gerry. :)